Can You Sleep Your Way to Great Job? 7 Tips….

May 8, 2012

Can you sleep your way to a great job? I think likely not. But I know if you don’t sleep well, that can be a show-stopper to a great work-life.  Lack of sleep can get in the way of your performance, your edge and your mojo!

Not enough sleep — is becoming an issue for too many people. For some, it’s by choice. We are a society addicted to productivity. As we try to squeeze more out of our days, sometimes we do so at the expense sleep.  Staying up late or waking up an extra hour earlier to squeeze in a workout or get a jump on the workday.

For others, lack of sleep is not by choice. I’m hearing so many people complain that they either can’t fall asleep, can’t stay asleep or they wake up too soon – sometimes in the middle of the night.

On occasion, I experience this too. So I’ve been taking the issue very seriously – it is an essential ‘TGIM work + life’ strategy! In fact, I spoke about this in my recent webinar (Bogged Down and Overwhelmed? Tips to Help You Cope).

It’s time to wake up to the issue of ‘not enough sleep’!

Sleep is imperative for our brains to function optimally and our brains need to function optimally if we are to bring the best of ourselves to our work and life. There’s a growing body of research on the impact sleep has on our brains (and our productivity, performance, thinking, etc). Sleep consolidates our learning, revitalizes and replenishes key hormones, and more.

The Neuroleadership Institute hosted a symposium last year in which leading experts on sleep talked about the Leadership Lockdown Syndrome. According to the researchers, our brains need three things to function properly: moderate stress, good sleep and positive affect (mood). They are inter-related of course. Poor sleep affects stress and mood. Stress and mood affects sleep. And so on…it’s all connected.

How much sleep do we need? Individuals may vary but experts say adults still need an average of 7-9 hours a night.  That may seem like a lot – but that’s what the experts say.

How many hours are you getting? For myself, I know there is nothing like a great night sleep. I can conquer the world when I’ve had my ample dose of great zzzz’s. I’m more creative, resilient, optimistic, energetic. And I have more discipline. When I don’t sleep well — especially if this is happening frequently, I find I’m operating on half a battery. And everything suffers: my mood (mojo), thinking, resilience, creativity, etc. I am even clumsier!

Here are some tips and ideas to ‘put you to sleep’ (literally not metaphorically, I hope!):

1) Set the intention to get enough sleep. Go to bed at a deliberate time to get enough hours.  Sometimes people get ‘busy’ and distracted and don’t realize the time. Especially true for ‘night owls’ (“oh, I didn’t realize it’s already 1am!”). Make it a point to go to bed by a certain hour so that you can get your 7-9 hours of sleep. If you are lucky enough not to have other sleep issues, it can be as simple as setting an intention and following through.

2) Create a ritual of habits that will optimize your ability to sleep. If you’ve been working, frazzled and rushing throughout your day, then make a habit to wind-down, disengage and calm your mind – at least an hour before you get into bed. If you go to bed frazzled, you may find it difficult to fall asleep or stay asleep.

3) Milk and cookies before bed! Yes, you read this right…I got this tip from Aileen Burford Mason, PH.D (scientist, and ortho-molecular nutritional expert) who recently wrote a book “Eat Well Age Better“. There’s a whole chapter on sleep. The point of milk and cookies is that getting  some tryptophan into our brain can help us sleep. Milk is a great source of trypotphan but alone, it can’t cut across the blood brain barrier. It needs a bit of help. The insulun from the carbs and sugar in the cookie help break that blood/barrier and (…hereI”m skipping more of the scientific explaination:)….voila…a nice sleepy feeling. Aileen provides a much more credibly, scientific explanation but I needed very little to convince me to have milk and cookies before bed. By the way, I’ve tried replacing the milk and cookie with the occasional ice cream treat too..oh yeah!! Try it – you’ll like it. But remember: the tip is a glass of milk and a cookie (or something like that). Not the whole row of cookies!

4) Create darkess in your room: Who knew – the darkness is actually what helps create melatonin…another essential ingredient needed for good sleep. Apparantly even slight rays of light creeping in can interrupt the production of melatonin and disrupt sleep. Aileen Burford-Mason suggests trying out one of those eye masks to create more darkness. I tried it. I’m sure I look funny but it works!

5) Easy on the caffeine and red wine: I found I have to stop any caffeine by early afternoon. You may have your own ‘boundary’ but pay attention to this. As well, red wine — it may make you initially sleepy but it is a stimulant and can keep you up later.

6) Nutritional deficiencies: If you are on medications or not eating right, there’s a bunch of repurcussions from a bio-nutritional perspective that will impact your sleep. Again, a full chapter on this in Burford-Mason’s book. Worth checking out and go to someone who specializes in holistic nutrition, especially if you are on medications for other health issues. The medical field does not amply bring nutritional considerations to their prescription approaches. There are easy things you can do to balance out the deficiencies but you need to be aware of what they are.

7) Stressed out? Don’t bring this to bed: Yup, stress will rob you of a good night sleep — if you let it. There are many ways to deal with and ‘park’ the stress that can keep us awake at night. Check out my oodles of tips in the recent webinar I did on Bogged Down and Overwhelmed? Tips to Help You Cope” (It’s free – no strings attached!).

I’m sure there are more tips (would love to hear them). But to sum up, my key points are: take sleep seriously, pay attention to what you need to get enough, practice new rituals, explore strategies — and get to bed!!

To your TGIM work + life!

Eileen

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Five Ways to Say No Without Jeopardizing Your Reputation at Work

April 27, 2012

You’re swamped. Your plate  is full. You are juggling as it is. Then your boss – or someone else at work – asks if you can take on another assignment. What do you do?

You know you should say ‘no’ to this one – but yuck…saying no is right up with your other least favorite things to do…like going to the dentist to get a cavity filled. Well, at least that’s the case for many people including a Globe and Mail reader who sent in a question to the Globe Career’s Ask an Expert Coach feature. 

New! On today’s Globe and Mail career site and in the paper edition:  Read what I wrote to this reader — “Five Ways to Say No Without Jeopardizing Your Reputation at Work”.

Sometimes saying ‘no’ is really saying yes — to being small; risking less than standard work; and more.

Reflect — what are you saying yes to when you shy away from the appropriate times to say ‘no’?

 What are your strategies, tactics, experiences with saying ‘no’ when it is appropriate?

Additional ResourcesSee my Webinar/Workshop page on this blog for a listing of Webinars (free) — including: Are you Addicted to the Yes Habit? As well, a couple more articles related to how to learn to say no from Investment Executive. See Part I and Part II (Investment Executive, March 2012).

Here’s to a TGIM Work + Life.

Eileen

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Do You Need a Title or Authority to be a Leader?

April 24, 2012

A big part of my coaching practice is related to leadership development. I coach leaders – of all levels – to bring the best of themselves to work (and life). My focus is to help individuals (and groups) optimize their personal, professional wellbeing and to recognize the impact they can have on others — and learn a whole bunch of personal/professional skills along the way.

But do you have to be an ‘official’ leader to lead? Do you need the authority to influence? The title – and formal position?

I don’t think you do. Authentic leadership is a skill and not a position. And it is essential for anyone who wants to bring their best to their work and life. 

This is the theme of a workshop I am facilitating tomorrow at the Administrative Professionals Conference in Toronto- called “10 Ways to Lead.”

Here’s a shout-out of thanks to Dr. Gail Levitt of Levitt Communications Inc. who invited me to this particular conference opportunity. Gail is a professional colleague whom I respect greatly – we share this similar philosphy about leadership.

I’ve always believed that leadership is not limited to one’s title. In fact, when I started Big Cheese Coaching in 2003, I chose the name “Big Cheese” to reflect my belief that we can all be ‘Big Cheeses” regardless of our positions if we access and develop our potential and hone our authentic leadership.

Sure there are oodles of skills to learn to be a great leader — and I love diving into those ‘buckets’ — but my message is: we all have a leader within. Own and hone your leadership and you will have a greater chance of leading/living your life by design and not default. Now who wouldn’t want that!?

Here’s to the leader within each of us!

TGIM Work+Life

Eileen

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How To Develop That Dream Job Without Losing Focus on Your Day Job

April 18, 2012

Oh this one speaks to my heart – and my work-life. A Globe and Mail reader writes to Globe and Mail Careers – Ask an Expert feature  - asking how she can juggle the demands of two careers. She has a day job but also a ‘passion’ career that she would like grow. Doing both – she confesses, is ‘hard’. How to juggle both?

Read the article here – and the advice I offered to this reader.

TGIM work-life is all about passion. Waking up with optimism for the day. Going to work with a sense of ‘mojo’ because you want to, not just because you have to. But sometimes our work doesn’t quite allow for that – or it does to some extent but you want ‘more’. More fulfillment, personal expression, authenticity — or whatever your ‘more’ is. Enter the second career – and for some, managing two at once. 

Some people take on a second careers to pursue an interest, or a passion or simply transition to a new frontier. Not everyone can afford to do a hard stop on career #1 to pursue #2. For many, that ‘transition’ means having to manage two careers at once.

Not easy – but it can be rewarding. Especially if you like both. Hmmm…too much of a good thing sometime? Oh, bring on that balancing act! Learn to juggle! Learn to prioritize….and more!

Are you managing two careers? What have you learned? What ‘tricks and tips’ would be helpful to others. Please share!

To your TGIM Work-Life in all your careers!

Eileen

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Some Follow-up Resources (Manage Overwhelm)

March 30, 2012

During my Webinar this week (recording now available), I shared a lot of ideas related to managing our ‘overwhelm’. Learning to say ‘no’ when appropriate; practising focus and being mindful (not ‘mind full’!); and getting enough sleep. And a ton more. Here are a few resources as a follow-up. More to come….we’ll keep this conversation going for some time (in different shapes and sizes).

Tame Those Overwhelm Gremlins– an article I wrote for the Globe and Mail that summarizes some of the topics discussed on the webinar.

- Webinar (free): Are You Addicted to the Yes Habit

- Articles: IE interviewed me just a few weeks ago on this topic which resulted in two articles. “Learn to Say No – Part I” – and “The Proper Way to Say No — Part II”

-Book: Eat Well, Age Better, Live Strong – by Aileen Burford Mason : Aileen’s book delves into nutrients and the brain and deals with stress, fatigue, sleep issues and more. It’s hot off the press!

-Have You Done Your Ta Da List Yet? A past issue of my newsletter got all into this – lotsa stuff here!

-Mindfulness at Work: We talked about practising mindfulness at work. If you think mindfulness is too zen for you and only for buddists think again. Wendy Woods (disclosure – a friend) has written an interesting article  about meditating at work and managing overload.

And so much more….feel free to weigh in and send comments, tips, other resources. In the meantime, it’s Friday and I need to do my ‘ta da list’ to complete my week :)

To TGIM Work + Life –> and Personal, Professional and Organizational Wellbeing.

Eileen

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And The Conversation Has Only Just Begun (Taming Overwhelm)!

March 28, 2012

Would you like more tips/strategies on how to tame your overwhelm gremlin? How to get a grip on the stuff that has a grip on you? Read on!

That was a wonderful experience!  So many turned out for yesterday’s Webinar on Taming the Overwhelm Gremlin. Thank you CICA for hosting this. If you missed it – you can still log in and register to listen/view the presentation.  It was a jam-packed hour and I received a lot of great feedback and a lot of terrific questions at the end. But I wish we had more time – there’s so much more! This is a big topic and yes, more than what I could  pack into one hour.  Would you like more too? If so, please read on:

Given the interest and all the ‘stuff’ that couldn’t possibly fit into one session, I’d like to share more so that you can make ‘taming your overwhelm gremlin’ a reality. If you are game and want more:

- Send me an email, or …

-Hit the ‘subscribe to my newsletter’ link (look to the right column for this)

…and include a note that you’d like ‘more on taming overwhelm’. I’ll include you in my ‘not-so-monthly’ newsletters AND I am creating a special series on ‘overwhelm’ and you will be on a special list and the first to get news, tips, and other stuff on this topic. 

What are you waiting for? Get on board!

In the meantime, I will be posting some resources you can tap into right away that dive deeper into some of the ideas I spoke of yesterday. Stay tuned — back  real soon!

Eileen

Tame Your Overwhelm Gremlin (Webinar): Over 3,500 People Signed up to Join Me

March 26, 2012

Are you? I am. Overwhelmed – that is. I’m overwhelmed by how many people have registered for tomorrow’s CICA Webinar! More than 3,500 signed up for the (free) Webinar that I’m presenting tomorrow at 12:30 ET: Bogged Down and Overwhelmed – Tips and Strategies to Help You Cope.

It’s not to late to register and the good news is if you can’t make the exact time to attend ‘live’ (12:30 ET), you can register and get the recorded version afterwards by logging back in with the same link.

Learn tips to “get a grip on the grip” that overwhelm has on you. From organizing yourself better to saving those precious brain resources to mindmatters and positive habits that will keep your mojo alive and well even during the most stressful times…lotsa stuff! 

Hope to “see” you there! 

To Your Personal, Professional and Organizational Wellbeing – and a TGIM work-life!

Eileen

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Online Discussion — “Are You Overwhelmed at Work” (Globe and Mail)

March 23, 2012

Further to may earlier post about an upcoming Webinar on handling overwhelm next Tuesday, the Globe and Mail is also getting on board with this hot topic. Today, at noon (ET), I’ll be answering questions and offering tips on how to deal with the stress of ‘too much to do’ in work and life.

I hope you will join me today at the Globe and Mail Careers online. Just follow this link here.

This Discussion is a follow-up to an article I wrote for Globecareers called “Take a Step Back to Tame Those Overwhelm Gremlins”.

And don’t forget next Tuesday’s Webinar (if can’t make the time, sign up anyways and access the recording anytime after).

Hope to see you there!

To a TGIM Work + Life!

Eileen

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Webinar: Bogged Down and Overwhelmed?

February 29, 2012

WEBINAR: Bogged Down and Overwhelmed? Tips and Strategies to Help Cope With it All. March 27th at 12:30pm (EST) — or listen to the recording anytime if you register. Cost: Free! Courtesy of CICA/CA Source Webinars.  Register here!

Email overload? Work pressure piling up? Too many requests – not enough time? Yeah, me too.

Having too much to do in work and life seems to be the new normal. The pace and volume of work-life demands is at an unprecedented level these days.  So when the CICA invited me to do another Webinar this year and asked me to suggest the topic, I thought this would be timely. Everyone I talk to these days seem to be juggling so much on their plate and dealing with frazzle, stress and overwhelm. And I have to confess – I do too!

The CICA (CA Chartered Accountants of Canada)  has been generous and opened up registration (for free) and for all. Thank you CICA!! You don’t have to be an accountant to join in. You simply have to register here. If you can’t make March 27th at 12:30 – no worries! If you register, you can listen in to recording afterwards at your own leisue.

I will be sharing oodles of tips and strategies. Some that I’ve learned from own practice having to cope with an incredibly busy work and life. As well, I’ll be drawing on great content I’ve learned in my studies in Positive Psychology and Wellbeing. How to stay productive and on top if it all when each day gets busier and busier? How to maintain your optimism, resilience and Mojo? How to tame that darn Overwhelm Gremlin — and more!

Want to flourish — even when it’s crazy, busy? Sign up and join in!

Oh and by the way, if you are interested in some of the other CICA webinars I’ve done on ‘Giving Feedback’; “Addicted to Yes? Learn to say ‘No’”; “Beat the Worklife Blahs” - then check out the archives here for recordings.

To a TGIM WORK+ LIFE — even when it’s too busy!

Eileen

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Wellbeing: My Word for 2012…..And You Can Have It Too.

January 9, 2012

I’ve been thinking a lot about wellbeing lately.  Guided by my year-end/new year reflection questions (“12 Questions To Complete The Year And Start Anew“), my attention’s really been focused on question #9: ”In what ways will you take care of your ‘mojo’ – resilience, energy, inspiration and sense of wellbeing?”.  So much so that I think “Wellbeing” is my theme word for 2012 – personally and professionally.  Maybe time to update the bio? :)

Wellbeing. It packs a lot of punch doesn’t it? At first glance it might seem like it’s all about health (wellness) – and to a great extent it is — but it’s so much more too.  Emotional wellbeing, physical wellbeing, financial wellbeing…….personal wellbeing, professional wellbeing, organizational and community wellbeing…..the list goes on and so much goes into each facet.

This word gives me a visceral hit. It feels so authentic and envelops so much that I’m passionate about both personally and professionally.  Ironically, it’s not a new concept to me. It’s been there all the time. In my work as a coach (Big Cheese Coaching) I help people navigate their work and life in a way that fosters more meaning, joy, success and fulfillment. I specialize in emotional intelligence for leaders (of all levels) and pay great attention to the skills (personal, professional) we need — in pursuit of our various work/life goals — to be our best, to be happy and to create environments and relationships that foster ‘TGIM’ (thank goodness it’s Monday) attitudes and aptitudes for all. Isn’t that all about personal, professional and organizational wellbeing? 

And concurrently for the last 9+ years, I have a professional relationship (providing communications advice and service) with an organization that is all about financial wellbeing – setting standards for financial planning.  Who can argue that one’s financial life can have an enormous impact on one’s personal wellbeing? 

And yes, the fitness side of things…with a degree in fitness from Mcgill (my first career with a continued lifelong interest) I was heavily involved in promoting fitness and wellbeing for nearly 10 years. 

So nothing has changed – yet everything has changed. Because sometimes a word, theme or phrase has the power to remind us of what is important and what we stand for.  Naming and claiming a word can illuminate what’s already there but perhaps needs to be brought more into focus. Or at least it can serve as an anchor or central theme to encompass disparate pieces that have more value when you look at the ‘whole’ vs. just the parts. 

So yes, “Wellbeing” does that for me and it’s my word for 2012. It’s in my focus for my own life and for my clients who come to me to be better leaders and/or to have more success and fulfilment in various contexts of their work and life.

Of course I realize I’m not alone in loving this word.  I’m in good company. It’s everywhere these days. The health and wellness world have a piece of it; the financial industry; and even economists are incorporating wellbeing into measures of what makes for a strong, healthy economy.  And one of my favorite sources of ideas and inspiration: the field of positive psychology. In fact, the guru of positive psychology, Martin Seligman, frames his latest book “Flourish” as a ‘visionary new understanding of happiness and wellbeing’ (great book and brilliant guy). And of course, wellbeing is a central theme to the EQi (emotional intelligence assessments).

I welcome the ‘crowds’ (there’s room for all) and am staking my place on “planet wellbeing”.  Care to join in?

If you are wanting to create more joy, optimism, success, energy, peace of mind (and the list goes on) in your work and life this year — professionally and personally — then I invite you to hop on board the Wellbeing train too. Not sure how to get there? I can help!  

Wellbeing.  It’s my word and now you can have it too. You’ve got my word.

Now let’s get to work — and create success and wellbeing in 2012 with a TGIM work + life!

Eileen

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