Archive for September, 2007

If you are new to my blog …

September 24, 2007

That was fun! I just saw my two minute speal on CBC’s Living in Toronto. The end frame invited people to my blog. Given there may be newcomers to my blog interested in Monday morning and/or back to work tips (after Mondays or holidays), I thought I’d post a few links for easy access to some of the more popular posts on that topic. 

Here’s a few (you can see more by clicking on the Monday Morning or TGIM Mindset categegory):

Tips to make the Big-ness of Monday just a little bit lighter

Finding flow: Intense Work but without the Struggle

Beat Back to Work September Blues

Now before I give you the wrong impression – know that this blog is about much more than ‘beating the work blues’:(…… have a browse around…or if you want to read an at-a-glance description see “About TGIM Work-life Blog”

In any case – aren’t you glad it’s Monday?

If not – then  you better keep reading and visit often! Glad to have you!


In the News – CBC TV: Beat the Monday Back to Work Blahs

September 24, 2007

I was interviewed a few weeks ago on the topic ‘how to beat the back-to-work Monday blahs’ for CBC TV’s Living in Toronto show. The segment is scheduled to air Monday (Sept 24) at 1pm (just shortly after the first segment in the show).

For those of you interested in the topic but not near a TV (or not Toronto-based), the producer said that if the technology ‘behaves’, the show will also be accessible on the web (try here)…..but I think only in ‘real time’.

 Also – see earlier posts in the “Monday Morning” tag.

In any case….. Aren’t you glad it’s Monday? If not, then better tune in!

Overcoming Work-Life Hurdles

September 8, 2007

Perdita Felicien

Perdita Felicien,
originally uploaded by
Erik R. Bishoff

Who hasn’t faced challenges along the way in their work and life? Hurdles come in many forms: disappointing work experiences; losing a job; ending personal relationships (divorce, separation, other) – etc. The real question isn’t whether or not there will be occasional set-backs in our work and lives – rather, it’s how will we cope and overcome them?

It takes a lot of smarts to deal with life’s challenges. More than IQ, more than technical and work-related smarts – it takes emotional intelligence (EQ) to successfully hurdle life’s challenges and disappointments.

Who better to look to for inspiration than the queen hurdler herself – Perdita Felicien. Perdita is the Canadian champion hurdler who just earned a silver medal in the 100 meter hurdles event at the world athletics championships. One year away from Bejing Olympics, this athlete’s dynamo performance last week marked a major come-back from her crisis three years ago when she crashed into the first hurdle in the Olympic final at Athens.

Do you remember that? The frustration, agony and disappointment Perdita faced after her fall in Athens – ouch! After so much hard work, with all her talent – she barely got out of the starting gate. With a bruised and battered foot – her confidence was equally shattered.

So how do you get up from there?

Perdita had a lot of work to do to come back. Both physically and emotionally. Her emotional journey was front and centre in last week’s newspapers. When so many others lost faith in her — she had to find it in herself to remember who she is and what she’s capable of.


Got any hurdles you are dealing with? When the chips are down how do you cope? How do you regain your footing after a ‘fall’ or set-back?

These are the times when emotional smarts really count the most.
When life and/or work gets tough, this is when your own inner game matters most. How are you with you? How do you talk to yourself through a set-back? Do you become the judger or the supporter? Do you dig deep to find your truths – or look outside to others for affirmation and/or worse, judgment?

A few tips:

1) Remember who you are. I always find these four little words very helpful when times get tough. Ask yourself, has this set-back really changed who you truly are? Does it take away all the gifts, strengths, talents and past accomplishments that you’ve developed and earned thus far? We’re often hard on ourselves…and quick to forget who we are because we are too busy beating ourselves up. This leads to the next point.

2) Practise humility. Sometimes we screw up – or fall short of reaching our goals. Sometimes it’s ourselves who are accountable and other times it’s just not meant to be. Being empowered is great but as long as we remember that we don’t get to control it all. Sometimes the universe is bigger than us. These are the times to practice humility. Simply letting yourself be human.

3) Learn from the experience and go from there. Ever hear the expression ‘things happen for a reason’? Try to find purpose and meaning in the challenging times and disappointments; learn from them and use the experience to grow.

4) Develop the ability to tap into faith and self-trust. Trust that if you do what you can do -then what’s meant to be will be. Trust yourself; trust the universe and balance the ‘doing’ with the believing. This mind set will be as important as all those other ‘hurdling’ skills.

And more…would love to hear your ideas – bring them on!

In the meantime, to you – and a TGIM work-life!


Hello September!

September 3, 2007

It’s Monday but most of us are off of work today because it’s Labour Day. Isn’t that a  bit ironic. Labour Day – yet we don’t work:)

In any case, in honour of Labour Day I pondered changing my blog name to “TGIM Labour-Life“. But notice how ridiculous that sounds…so nixed that idea!!

Since my last post a couple weeks ago (Beat the Back to September Blues), I’ve been asking others how they feel about September coming. Here’s a sprinkling of some of the responses I got from my Facebook friends. Notice a lot of references to ‘back to school’ – but these were all adults…..some parents, some not…but that ‘back to school’ mindset forever ingrained:)

Sharp Pencil

(Photo courtesy of Crab Mind on Flickr)

Makes me feel like routines will start all over again (homework, cold weather)…

“Kids back at school means I get to do homework all over again!”

“Makes me want to look for slowcooker recipes.”

“Excited. Less humid, still warm, and still like buying new school supplies…”

“Love it. Makes me want to go out and stock up on new notebooks and sharp pencils. No matter how many years it’s been since I was a student, September always feels like the start of a new year. “

And one still digging in the heels of resistance said: “Downright depressed. Where did summer go?”

As for me, I’m getting into the swing of it. Booking up meetings and projects for the fall – and generally just focusing on the things that I appreciate about autumn. In that spirit, I’m sharing a little quoteI stumbled across that I think is very timely:

 “There ought to be gardens for all months of the year, in which, severally, things of beauty may be then in season.” – Sir Francis Bacon.

I like the sounds of that….if your work-life (and personal life) was a garden what are you planting and what are you looking forward to reap and harvest that is uniquely special for this season?

Would love to hear from you!

To Labour Day and a TGIM work-life!