Archive for October, 2011

“Help – My Boss is a Bully and Wants me Fired!”

October 28, 2011

Ouch! Yikes…a bully boss…a toxic boss… a bad boss! How unfortunate if you’ve got one of those in your career path. I suspect, many of us can relate and have had at least one story in our career paths when we had to deal with a ‘difficult’ boss. Well, I received a request for help recently via a letter to Globe and Mail’s Careers “Ask a Career Coach” feature (I am one of the Globe’s Career Coach’s for their Career site). The reader is in a contract position and is wondering what to do to salvage his future career prospects knowing his boss most likely won’t be a good reference. As well, he felt she had sabotaged much of his opportunity to prove his worth in that contract.

 

I hope you don’t have to deal with this kind of situation but if you do, rest assured. One bad experience does not have to derail your career. Have a read of some advice I offered in this particular situation. And let’s hope that bad bosses become the exception and not the rule!

P.S You can check out some of the other questions (and advice offered) from myself and my colleagues at the “Ask a Career Coach” page. And feel free to send me your questions too – I can respond to them here at TGIMworklife or possibly on the Globe and Mail site

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Three Things I am Grateful for….

October 10, 2011

One of the greatest anti-dotes for stress is practising gratitude. Experts in positive psychology, spiritual masters, and others alike, will all concur, that giving thanks is a healthy, mojo-boosting energizer that will leave you feeling more joyful, alive and happy. The science is there but for me – I just know from my own experience it works.  So on this Canadian Thanksgiving, give it a try: Name and claim at least three things you are grateful for right now…in this moment…..on this day.

For me at this very moment, I am grateful for:

1) The most glorious day of sunshine we have today (here in Toronto). I went for a walk and drank in the stunning foliage, warm air, and overall sense of awe how beautiful this season is.

2) The ravine and beautiful park just across my home that gives me an instant burst of feeling like I’ve gotten away and into deep nature which is very soul-fueling for me.

3) My beautiful network of lovely friends, family, neighbors, colleagues, clients and community….I feel connected and loved in many parts of my life.

4) My ability to think, speak, hear, walk, write, eat, see, breath, smell, touch, feel…..I am all too aware of the ease of those tasks sometimes taken for granted — and the unquantifiable sources of joy I get just because I can do each of those things.

(NOTICE THAT I AM PAST 3 THINGS….IT’S HARD TO STOP ONCE YOU START)

5) My ever-expanding capacity to learn, grow and develop myself….and help others too in my work. In return, I get satisfaction that is hard to describe but enormously important and what makes for meaningful life for me.

6) My ability to be grateful and practice it regularly and reap is rewards. Gratitude expressed inwardly and outwardly fuels my wellbeing tank. Read more about this in my short story in  my entry in the Gratitude Book Project here.

Now your turn. Go on try it. Start with three. See how it feels. You may like it. In fact, so much, you may wanna do it everyday. Why not?

TGIM and Happy Canadian Thanksgiving on this beautiful Monday!

Eileen

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