The Silver Lining in Disappointment…

Disappointment can be hard but if you are the reflective and resourceful type – and draw on some of your emotional intelligence, often you can find a silver lining in the experience. Perhaps it comes in the form of new learning and/or an insight that moves you forward in some way….or keeps the door open for a bigger or more meaningful opportunity.

That seems to be what happened with Martin Slofstra, who has been writing about his job search journey in an ongoing series of columns in the Globe and Mail since July. Recently, he was interviewed for what he thought would be his dream job. He came in close (second candidate) — unfortunately not close enough to get the offer. Ouch. That was disappointing for Martin.

But with some soul searching – he discovered something important. The experience gave him additional awareness of what his career interests and passions were….it moved him forward in his journey towards a meaningful worklife by having greater self awareness; more focus and intention — and even some renewed faith that he’s getting closer.

I have been following Martin’s journey since July and have been in touch with him a few times these past months. On occasion he actually quotes me or includes a tidbit in his column about something we’ve talked about…..i.e. a nugget of advice I’ve offered, or some questions to reflect on.

Today Martin quoted me in his article. Unfortunately there was a small typo in my name (it’s Chadnick not Chadwick) — but just the same I was delighted that he took away something meaningful from our last exchange.

You can read the article here today while it’s still online (or buy a copy). And sometimes these get posted on Workopolis for a while as well.

But if you miss the article, here’s part of the nugget I shared. It starts with a quote from the renouned, Kim George – author of “Coaching into Greatness’ and a tremendous coach, mentor, visionary on all things related to “Abundance Intelligence” (which is very connected to emotional intelligence).

 “What’s meant for you can’t be lost”

…that is of course if you are doing all that you can do and being who you can be (authentic and living your greatness….unique strengths, gifts, values, aspirations, etc.).

There’s much more lying beneath that quote of course….you can read more by logging on to Kim’s blogs and website — or better yet, read the book….and most certainly do catch up with Martin’s columns. He’s very reflective…very articulate…and I think we can all learn a lot from his journey.   

So what about you? Are you dealing with disappointments in your worklife (or personal life) right now that might offer a silver lining? What are you learning from the challenge? How is your own self awareness and resourcefulness growing as a result of this experience? What about past disappointments? If you fast forward to where you are now, did something better come along? What lesson did you learn about ‘toughing’ it out? Or giving it time?

Well that’s it for today’s post. Till next time….and to a TGIM Worklife!

Eileen

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2 Responses to “The Silver Lining in Disappointment…”

  1. Tom Volkar Says:

    Eileen, thank you for this post. It made me think about the old positive thinkers first default question when facing disappointment. What’s good about it? If you take the time to answer the question, invariably there is something good.

    Thanks again for reminding me of my all-time favorite Kim George quote. “What is meant for me can’t be lost.” That’s such a powerful mantra for anyone seeking their right livelihood. It’s so powerfully comforting that it makes me want to pick myself up, dust myself off and begin anew knowing that I’m surely getting closer by my rapid mistake-making.

  2. Eileen Chadnick Says:

    Thanks Tom – nice to meet you. I will definitely be checking out your blog as well. Sounds like we’ve got lots in common wrt to our worklife mission. And nice to meet a ‘Kim George’ friend too!

    Eileen

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